I'm writing to you to find out how I can possibly stay sober. I didn't drink anything for three months but when my boyfriend drinks, I drink. I am an alcoholic and I come from a family of alcoholic's down to my mother, who is no longer here, my father and my brother. I'll be 42 years old and I've drank the majority of my life. I want to never drink again but still find ways to have fun. I do dumb things when I drink. I'm subject to anything. My boyfriend accuses me of cheating all the time, which I'm not, and he always says things to hurt my feelings. I then turn to drinking as well it only makes things worse with our relationship I just want to be happy I go out of my way for this man. Please give me a little advice. Thank you.
Dear Want to Quit,
Is your boyfriend an alcoholic? Have you been to AA? Part of staying sober is about having support. AA provides support. Or, if AA seems a little too scary at first, you might try Al-Anon instead. Coming from a long line of alcoholics definitely affects your behaviors. Having a boyfriend and friends who support your desire not to drink could be a big factor. There are TONS of ways to have fun without drinking but you have to develop new habits.
Get help. Don’t be afraid to tell people that you’re trying to stop drinking and surround yourself with people who will support you. Find an AA or Al-Anon meeting (and if you aren’t comfortable in one, try another one…the Resources page has a link to both agencies so you can find a nearby meeting). That you’re reaching out for help to me is a great first step. So now, just have to courage to take the next one.
Don't be shy! Say what's on your mind and get a good dose of perspective in return.