My wife has gone to house sit for an old friend of hers and visit her friends’ elderly mom each day. Now my wife informs me today that her friends’ husband has invited a guy to come and stay at their house while my wife is there. I don't know this guy and my wife does not know him either. I am not happy about it and told my wife to tell the guy to go get a hotel. She won’t do it.
Dear Not Happy,
I don’t blame you. If your wife’s friend was going to have someone else staying at the house at the same house, she should have cleared it with your wife first. I’m going to assume the best here and chalk this up to a miscommunication, but I think your advice about asking him to stay at a hotel is good. Or have your wife stay at one. Given that neither of you know this guy, it’s not unreasonable to feel uncomfortable with the situation. Most likely he’s a good guy and there’s nothing to worry about, but why take chances? Has your wife talked with her friend about it?
I can understand that your wife may be worried about putting the guy out or being rude, but this situation is complicated and its reasonable to ask him to stay somewhere else until things get straightened out.
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