I met this guy about 10 months ago. He happened to stop into the store I was working in. Well we talked on the phone a few times and he kept telling me he wanted to take me out for dinner, well that never happened, I finally told him it wouldn't work out because I couldn't deal with the wait I will call you back etc. Well 10 months later he texted me because he is in town for his son's graduation, he wanted to see me. He called me that night and told me he would like to see me the next day, so we go out for dinner and had a nice conversation. We talked a few more times, several times and within two weeks he told me he loved me.....fast forward a month, he has been on the road and I told him the one thing I want is for him to communicate with me since we couldn't see each other much.
He told me all these things he wanted from me, he wants me to be his girl, he wants to get married, he has a goal to buy a couple of houses so he can retire and live happily, but what is bugging me is that in the beginning he would call, text and say he will try to make it my way. Day before valentines day he tells me he will try to make It here, he has a plan but he would have to fix numbers on his work sheet.
I told him not to do that, I don't want him to get in trouble. The entire weekend I heard nothing from him. His calls would go to voice mail. And his mailbox was full. Well after worrying and contacting his company he told me he was having phone issues, there was no way to call me, he claims. He said his phone went black and could not use it and the Verizon store was closed on Sundays so he spent the entire weekend at a motel waiting for Monday to go to Verizon.
Just me typing this is sounding ridiculous. My thing is if he really wanted to contact me, he would have, if he really said he loved me he would not be ignoring my calls and text messages as he has done so today.
I texted him this morning and have yet to hear from him. What are you thoughts?
I think his intentions may be good but his actions show a lack of ability to follow-through, for whatever reason. He may truly just have a complicated life and schedule that makes him unreliable at best. Or, he may be leading you on. Either way, his words and his actions are telling two completely different stories and it’s the actions that count.
If we were chatting over coffee, I’d tell you to just let him go. Or, call him on it. Tell him that you expect more out of a relationship and since he can’t seem to pull it together, you’re done. You shouldn’t have to wait around for this guy to get on board. You deserve better.
Don't be shy! Say what's on your mind and get a good dose of perspective in return.