What if you two are separated and she wants a divorce and you don’t. It is where we were arguing, her yelling and I said I would slap her if she didn't get out of my face but I didn’t. We had other problems like a step girl and dad that caused a lot of problems. We have been through a lot she has had 14 surgeries. We have five kids; two mine, two hers and one together. This is a woman I would do anything for. Can you tell me if there is a way to fix it?
It sounds to me like there are some very big issues here that you and your wife don’t agree on. I would strongly suggest finding a counselor. If your wife is willing to go with you, find a marriage or family counselor. If not, an individual counselor would be able to help you sort out some of the issues that need to be resolved if you want to fix your marriage. Ultimately, they’ll be able to help you find common ground and to work on dealing with conflict more effectively. You can look for counselors in your area through the APA website. The link is on my Resources page.
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