I am going to be there while my spouse dies of kidney cancer doctor said 12 months left could you tell me month by month what I am in for please try the best you can to explain what she will be feeling and what I could do to help tell me about how the drugs will work I just need some kind of an idea what to expect please.
Unfortunately, I am not at all qualified to answer this question. However, I wanted to take the opportunity to share a couple of resources that might help you.
First, is the American Cancer Society website which has resources for cancer patients, their families and their caregivers. The following link will lead you directly to one of their resources pages:
American Cancer Society Resources
Then, I wanted to direct you to the Hospice Foundation of America website which has wonderful information about end-of-life care and grief. Hospice care is truly amazing both for the person at end-of-life and their families. They have an “Ask the Experts” section and also a lot of useful articles.
Hospice Foundation of America
I’m very sorry to hear about your spouse and I hope these and other resources will help you and comfort you.
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