Obsessive Thinking

Dear Amy,
I am very fat, and have a tiny penis, which does not even protrude from my body when standing. It has been a source of embarrassment my whole life, even though I have fathered a child and am happily married. My consuming obsession is a fantasy that I am naked in front of a woman, or group of women who laugh at me. I am not sure if this is healthy...what do you think?

Dear Consumed,

      Two things. First, focus on the present. You have a healthy child and a loving marriage right? Make sure you take time everyday to appreciate the “today” parts of your life.
     Second, I am not a medical expert so I’m not going to offer medical advice but I am going to suggest talking to a doctor about weight loss. If your body image issues are causing you emotional stress, then it’s probably a good idea to start dealing with those issues. Talking to a doctor about losing weight and possibly to a counselor to work on the obsessive thoughts you’ve having about the size of your penis will help you live a much healthier life. I don’t think obsessing about anything is very healthy and it probably takes time away from the life you could be living.

Amy