Okay, so I know this probably going to be the stupidest thing ever, but Christmas is in less than one week and I still haven't gotten my boyfriend anything. We've been together less than 3 months (January 4 will mark 3 months) and I have no idea what I want to get him. I know as his girlfriend I'm supposed to know all the ins and outs of what he loves and what he'd like as a gift. But the fact that the relationship is still new, and getting even more serious as the days goes by freaks me out because I don't want to screw anything up. Any ideas?
Not only is this not a stupid thing but it's something we've all probably worried about at one time or another. And also a fun question for me to answer so thank you!
Ok, if your relationship is amazing (and it sounds like it is) then nothing you can give him as a gift is going to mess things up. So don’t panic. Also, you can be with someone for years and not know all the ins and outs, so again, try not to worry. I have two suggestions. First, think of something you enjoy doing together. It could be as simple as a favorite restaurant or going to the movies. Give him a date night complete with tickets or a gift certificate. You can make it personal and sweet without worrying about knowing his exact tastes AND it means spending time together, which is a big plus.
My second suggestion comes straight from my relationship. My fella and I exchange books. We are both big readers and so we’ve taken to getting each other books that we think the other would like. It’s actually a lot of fun to see what he picks. Sometimes they’re things he thinks I’d like and sometimes it’s related to something we’ve talked about or done together. Of course, if books aren’t your thing, you could do the same basic concept with music or movies. It’s the story that comes along with it that makes it fun. As with the best gifts, it’s the thought that counts so be ready to explain what you were thinking when you picked it out. For instance, “this CD has a song we listened to on our first date” or “I know you love lizards so I got you this amazing lizard book.” You know, whatever works for you.
Don't be shy! Say what's on your mind and get a good dose of perspective in return.