I seem to attract men with money, but feel lonely a lot of the time because of their inability to commit. Then recently I was approached by a friend of couple of years who confessed that he loved me and wanted to marry me. I have always felt the same about him, however I seem like I'm trying to find flaws. He is not wealthy, but he really seems to care about me. What am I so afraid of?
You may also be having some problems with commitment. If we were sitting across the table, I’d ask you about your relationship with money. Is there something in your past that makes you feel financially insecure? If you’ve felt financial insecurity, even as a child, it’s possible that you’ve placed a pretty high value on financial stability in your life and its not surprising that that includes romantic involvement. It may not even be something you consciously consider. So I’d suggest taking an honest look at what you want in a relationship. You may find that the person who loves you meets all your criteria and can start focusing on his good points rather than worrying about flaws.
The truth is that if you go looking for flaws, you’re going to find them. We all have them. You’ll never find someone who is perfect no matter what your definition, but you may find someone perfect for you if you can gain a better understanding of what drives you and what your needs truly are. And then be honest and open with your partner about the things that concern you. He’ll either love you for who you are, flaws and all, or you’ll find someone else who does.
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