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Ditched

1/22/2015

 
Dear Amy,
I have been in a quiet relationship with someone since October. He comes to the house, we talk, spend a little time together. 3 days before Christmas he stops and makes a statement that he is hoping to spend some with me on Christmas Day. I know he has a dinner to go to around 5 pm. I talk myself into believing that he will not come over so I leave for a couple of hours in the afternoon. I guess he stopped by when I was not home. He has not stopped by since. I think that he is hurt because I was not there. He could have called, I know I did not want to cry any more and did not want to be myself on Christmas. I left him a note to stop by my house. How should I explain and hopefully get back to where our relationship was?


Dear Ditched,

Best advice: Be honest with him.

      What made you talk yourself into thinking that he wouldn’t come? Are you still getting over a bad relationship? Has someone let you down? Has he? I think you may have done a little self-sabotage and I’m guessing there’s a reason...maybe one that you should address with a counselor. But in order to get things back on track with this guy, you’re going to have to be honest and to accept that he may be a little hurt. Yes, he could have (and probably should have) called. But his reaction is just as human and emotional as yours so cut him some slack and talk openly about how you’re feeling.

Wishing you luck.

Amy

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