I have feelings for a guy. And I'm not sure if I should have feelings for him because I have one friend who wants to get back together with him. What should I do?
You can’t help who you have feelings for but you can choose whether to act on those feelings or not. Dating a friend’s ex is a tricky situation and if that friend still has feelings for him, you’re heading for trouble with your friend. So deciding whether or not to act on your feelings really has a lot to do with considering the consequences. Is it a close friend? Would you be willing to give up the friendship for the relationship?
Chances are, whatever you decide you will have to make a hard decision. Putting aside your feelings for the guy won’t be comfortable for a while but it will be ok eventually. Revealing your feelings for the guy could lead to a wonderful relationship but it will likely take a toll on your friendship. Life presents us with all kinds of messy situations and navigating them is part of how we grow. Whatever you decide, make sure you’ve considered all the possible outcomes and then embrace your decision and have faith that things will work out the way they were meant to.
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